I used to network (with someone who shall be nameless), and has actually took on the lead of someone who "knows" the music scene.I mean knows every bit and part of it. It makes me wonder if this person is actually trying to get under my skin (which in a sense has), or is trying to become what I would call, a Poser. This man actually portrayed himself as a knowledgeable music expert of every genre locally (like many of the musicians out there, I took the bate). He actually told me he admire the Jazz music and tried to have me just talk about Jazz Music through my blog! Don't get me wrong, I LOVE my Jazz, Rhythm and Blues, and R&B music, but MY HEART always is in Metal Music.
Going back to this person, I tried to be friends and go out Socially to meet with him and check out some of the people he just would promote on his pages he had. So I did, then this guy asked if I wanted to go to the movies as friends. I actually trusted this guy and actual said sure. So after the movies that night, he actually try to kiss ME (EW)! I told him friends are cool and keep it that way. I got really creep-ed out that night. I didn't know what to do but just deleted & blocked him off of Facebook for good.
This guy got so hurt that he went after all of my friends through Facebook, which he had NO CONNECTION to (which were my metal music friends and family), and started to squeeze himself into my connections that I talked to and associated with. They fought against each other (this man and other colleagues of mine) for quite sometime. Business partners went their separate ways and some of them went to this guy (who had NO CLUE of what genre of music most of the bands classified themselves in) and made me feel like the situations that occurred were my fault.
As time went by, I STILL went out, seeking out bands, writing about them (what I saw) and critiqued them, started helping out with other projects. A colleague of mine had mentioned to me that this guy actually would still post stupid remarks about this "girl" and refer her as someone that messed him up. He also went on by adding bands (that were on MY PAGES) and started to talk to them and try to yet again, squeeze himself into the picture. This is what I call, a POSER. I believe Karma is going to get this person soon, but I can't put harm on him personally, just let fate take care of this guy.
Ending on a positive note, I do wish success to this person and others, but if he ever does read this or gets this, I wish you on your success, but don't try to rub off of someone else's joy for your own gain. Do what you're good at, being social and be with YOUR AGE GROUP! You look creepy with a younger crowd (unless your teaching them something you know), it's gross and seems like your a Pedophile. You personally know most of my friends and colleagues and they also see you as this and as well, they know this story from when this situation took place. I have warn the very young ladies of this and others around me, so they know what you've done, and if you can please, change YOUR WAYS.
I, a [formal] musician, guitarist, pianist, and singer who has 21+ years experiences in gigs, getting hired for music acts, and played for numerous places who knows more than enough music genres, places (from SA to Fort Worth, TX) to perform at, and KNOW people from my experiences. This doesn't mean I'm a Poser of that nature, but someone who LIVED (and still living) a life of this (musician) lifestyle. I'm a nature, I know this, I have been told numerous times. From my family (personally) to people I don't even know. I am in no way in shape or form trying to be 'Popular' or try to get someone's attention because I know this person or that person, but just to say what I see, feel, and hear and compare them from my past experiences to present.
What I have learned from all of this is to be careful of who you talk to, who you express your networking facts and opinions to because it can get ugly, especially on the web! BE CAREFUL MUSICIANS! Make sure the people you social with is affiliated with someone (a known company) and not someone who's going to try to make your name a bad one!
Thank you for reading,
Kat (Kathleen)
